Romans 12:4-5 – Each of us has one body with many parts. And the parts do not all have the same purpose. So also we are many persons. But in Christ we are one body. And each part of the body belongs to all the other parts.
1 Corinthians 12:11-12 – All of the gifts are produced by one and the same Spirit. He gives them to each person, just as he decides. There is one body. But it has many parts. Even though it has many parts, they make up one body. It is the same with Christ.
The question, “Am I normal?” gets right to the heart of each person’s desire to know why they were created: “What’s my purpose in life?” At the baseline, we want to know that our child is developing and transitioning through life as they should. And, if we’re honest with ourselves, we have an innate desire for them to move through better than anyone else’s child!
But “normal” is really a dangerous word and expectation. No one is normal! We are all fallen creatures, seeking the right relationship with our Creator. And that Creator has given each of us, including our children, the gifts, skills, talents, personality, and characteristics we need to accomplish everything he commissions us to do: 1) Love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, mind, and strength; and 2) Love your neighbor as yourself.
Here are a few reminders as you learn more about your child:
- Pray for and seek out a small group you can talk to. Asking about the normalcy of your child on Facebook is not the way to go about this. Connecting in small groups at epikos Church is a great start to finding people from different seasons of life who can lend an ear and wisdom.
- Love your child, even when they perform/act in below average ways. No one can be excellent at everything. And no one can be excellent all the time. Our children need to hear our encouragement and support.
- “Normal” is different for every single person. We are all fearfully and wonderfully made by God. His standard is what matters.
The verses mentioned at the beginning of this article should serve as weekly, if not daily, reminders that we each have a place in the body of Christ. The call on our lives is to daily practice the life Jesus called us to, and that each of us have been given what we need by him to experience life and life to the full through the saving grace of the Son.